Dating apps and sites get you only so far
Technology has reduced how we get a date to swiping right for “yes” and left for “no.” But presumably once on that date you still need to charm your guest if you hope to see him or her again or if you’d like for the night to continue.
“Once you’re in the game, the old rules still apply,” says dating coach Chris Luna. He recommends a different flirting tactic depending on the person, their partner for the evening, and the circumstances of the date. What his general strategy for women looking to express interest in a companion?
“Validate him, whether laughing or smiling or touching him is a big one,” he says.
Men should not follow that same advice. A good touch from a female might become a bad touch when it comes from a guy. So in order to flirt in a way women want, Chris advises men to progress incrementally. And if all goes well, eventually you go for it.
“It’s very important that you take the risk because most of the time it’ll work out,” he says. He adds that dating services can increase one’s chances of a successful date, however one defines that, before it starts.
As the populizer of the would-you-or-wouldn’t-you model, Tinder seems the hippest digital dating service available. But newer apps like Heavenly Sinful attempt to capitalize on Tinder’s popularity by clarifying what exactly its users hope to obtain from potential matches when they swipe right.
Sites like Eharmony and OkCupid, meanwhile, claim better long-term success rates.
But even with all that help getting dates that supposedly should work out, all daters seem to have experienced someone messing it up:
“I’m 5’10”. ‘Oh, girl. You tall.'”
“Maybe trying too hard to look sexy?”
“Look at that girl’s butt. It’s big. It’s huge. It’s amazing. I want that.”
“Unless you’re gorgeous, don’t come with a cheesy pickup line.”